“FORGIVENESS IS TO RELINQUISH YOUR GRIEVANCE AND SO TO LET GO OF GRIEF… FORGIVENESS IS TO OFFER NO RESISTANCE TO LIFE — TO ALLOW LIFE TO LIVE THROUGH YOU… THE MOMENT YOU TRULY FORGIVE, YOU HAVE RECLAIMED YOUR POWER FROM THE MIND.”
In order to fully understand forgiveness, begin to consider its impact through embodied experience.
Forgiveness organically activates physical, psychological, and emotional healing by permeating all layers of our Being, i.e. re-connecting us with our core essence.
Eckhart Tolle astutely observed that forgiveness is premised on letting go of inner-held grievance patterns. Whether or not we are consciously aware, grievances transmit and amplify our past embedded energy from emotional states that have remain trapped in our body’s tissues. Renewal of energy is stoked as we replay our old grievance patterns that constantly act to reinforce and expand our “pain bodies” (i.e. embedded memories of pain). Every repetition of a past grievance further devalues our sense of Being, progressively shifting us from a state of ease through to dis-ease (i.e. living in near-constant “pain-memory”).
Pain is an inescapable experience along the journey of life.
Pain alters the transmission of otherwise vibrant energy pathways, challenging to block vital the energy flow radiating from our undisturbed state of Being. External conditions that disrupt our inner-connection to Self cloud our most basic awareness of truth, i.e. our Being. A threatening sense of disconnection throws our GPS off-balance, arousing our deepest vulnerability.
A prevailing sense of not feeling oneself is typically experienced.
Secondary emotional experiences (i.e. arising from feelings beyond our essential loving nature) can assist us by drawing our awareness to those lower frequencies let loose by uncontrollable events. While neither good nor bad in of themselves, lower energetic frequencies serve to alert us of some “alien” force within our scope that threatens to hijack our personal energy field. Experiencing dissonance from lower vibrational frequencies ensures that our capacity to thrive under higher frequencies may be readily restored . Innately, we respond to any assault that challenges the perfection of our undisturbed Being via spontaneous physiology that seeks to re-establish homeostasis.
External events that enter our sphere require processing at all levels (i.e. physical, emotional, and psychological). This may be achieved within the short order of several seconds to minutes.
Through practices of non-judgment and acceptance, we are able to release by way of flow, the low frequencies associated with pain incurred without harmful residue. This naturally self-clearing process facilitates embodied learning by extracting only what is meaningful from painful events. Just as healthy digestion promotes maximal absorption of nutrient substances (i.e. those physical elements that serve to enrich us), we incur practical lessons through experiencing our pain. These become embedded elements while we let go of those that are merely distractive. Full integration at multi-levels thwarts all effects contrary to wellbeing.
The more thoroughly any event is metabolized, the more stable we become through a dynamic state of flow.
By remaining undisturbed (i.e. in our natural state of Being) our lens of perception remains wide open, permitting us to sense the world with minimal distortion.
Maintaining maximal clarity enables our most suitable moment-to-moment response at any given time.
Our physical body recalls past lessons that have been embedded for the benefit of our wellbeing (i.e. not to touch a hot stove). Recall is free of limitations and/or distortions that might otherwise be derived from indiscriminate ‘ad hoc’ associations.
With clarity of mind, our moment-to-moment perception remains untainted, ensuring we avoid unnecessary suffering.
We need not relive lessons already learned (i.e. repeatedly touching a hot stove). A razor-sharp mind operates with maximal proficiency, extracting every opportunity to facilitate thriving. Our rational mind quickly discerns between relevant and random associations (other sights, sounds, conditions) of past painful experiences. Fear by association (i.e. ad hoc imagery) occurs when a faulty internalization, (i.e. “false-knowing”) is activated via neuro-circuitry gone out of control (i.e. hyper-vigilance).
Lacking the healthy capacity to process painful experiences lays our system’s default switches wide open.
Partially metabolized features add layers of threat to be imposed upon a precariously fragile sense of safety. Hyper-vigilance (once a protective mechanism) casts its net too wide, joining up adjacent swaths of healthy neuro-circuitry to ever-expansive fear networks. Like a cancer, fear may spread its reign unchecked. The evolved thinking mind is prone to be eclipsed by more primitive survival modes, including dormancy (freeze mode) or overdrive (fight or flight mode), as our perceived sense of threat grows out of control.
We create an inner-environment of self-harm through any grievance that presents us in a light of self-righteousness that confuses our sense of “right to feel” with “truth”.
Through mindfulness, we may choose to limit our exposure to events causing unnecessary disturbance to our Being. In doing so, we choose to avoid suffering beyond life’s inescapable painful events, taking each event as it arrives.
We may choose to acknowledge and accept each experience of pain, as it is.
Through acceptance, we separate our sense of Self from our experience of pain. This step assists in our ability to fully metabolize pain as it occurs. We begin to feel in control of re-establishing our inner-sense of peace and ease, i.e. our natural state of Being in increasingly short order. As each challenge of fear, anger, distrust, betrayal, and anxiety arise; we aspire to acknowledge each for what it is, allowing its energy to flow through us and release itself.
We actively participate in releasing our Selves from whatever is, by mindfully not attaching to any of it.
To heal the suffering of past wounds, we only need invite our full attention through ‘presence’ by feeling and releasing each embodied sensation as it occurs. By consciously inviting ourselves to let go of energetic challenges that threaten our wellbeing, we are better able to stay in the flow of our innate sense of peace.
Over and over again, we permit ourselves to return to the organic state of freedom that exists within.
Past unreleased emotional patterns detract from our ability for unconstrained learning. Thus, only well-serving events are committed to long-term memory. Through mindful awareness, we dramatically alter the interference of past distractive thoughts. Our conscious attention is diverted towards fully integrating all past experiences. By observing each emotion as the neutral response to a life event, we gain authority to value each life experience for the learning it offers.
Conscious acts of forgiveness allow our brain to release the grievances we have attached ourselves to from frozen or hyper-vigilant states of being.
Releasing past grievances from our physiology removes their ability to act as catalysts for further suffering. As each new event occurs, ongoing emotional states flow through the conducive state of present-moment awareness. Any resistance to being in the present moment impedes natural flow. Connection with Being is all that is required to re-enter the innate state of peace and ease that delivers us into unbridled freedom.
Forgiveness is both the means and end to a life of freedom.